Forgive Yourself, Stepmom

Here's the truth - I love my life, but it's not easy. It's complicated and messy and it doesn't come naturally. I mean, what else would you expect in a situation where two couples attempt to raise children separately, (but together) and compete for priority and "rightness" (while trying to be respectful and deferential for …

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Can a Stepmom Ever Really Let Go?

This blog has given me an amazing platform to connect and share with a lot of stepmoms. Through their candidness (and uncanny ability to read my mind), I've started to grasp why being a stepparent can feel so difficult: we never get "closure." Like, ever. Think about the number of misunderstandings you encounter in a …

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The Secret to an Amazing Second Marriage (Spoiler: It Ain’t Romance)

Did you know that different parenting styles is the #1 reason for divorce in America? Think about that for a second. We're taught, as a society, that our purpose in life is to get married, preferable quickly and extravagantly, because everlasting fulfillment is only found in raising a family. But as it turns out, that …

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When Communication Fails

At some point in the blended journey, you and your spouse will disagree with, ask autonomy from, or simply become less involved with the other household … and shit will hit the fan. Whether it surprises you (or you've been waiting patiently for those true colors to shine), the Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde dichotomy will be …

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5 Things You Need to be a Successful Stepmom

I think we use the word "good" too often when we talk about parents, step-parents or otherwise. In truth, I find myself less and less interested in being a good stepmom. Good is too subjective - it's emotional, judgmental, and entirely too easy to fall short of. I've decided I'd rather be successful. What do …

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What Having Stepkids Has Taught Me About Myself

What if asking 'Who am I?' is asking the wrong question? It's an age-old question, an incredibly compelling one - it chooses career paths, dictates who we befriend and decides the types of marriages we build. It's what we start and end every day with. It's probably the most important question we ever consider: Who …

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Mom Dates: Why I’m Willing Spend my Time with my Husband’s Ex

Last year I would have laughed if you'd told me I'd schedule regular 'mom dates' with my husband's ex and our children, but that's exactly what I'm going to advocate to you now. When I first began seeing my husband, I reached out to his ex for a coffee date in the hopes we might …

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